ISTJ Relationships- Core Elements
The core elements of love and a healthy relationship are trust, respect, attraction, and investment. According to TypeMatch Relationship Dynamics, here is how those elements align for ISTJs:
Trust:
ISTJs trust their own experience and memory and so trust those that they’ve shared good times and hard time with. They trust those that have been there with them and feel close to and comfortable with those that they’ve known a long time. ISTJs are distrustful of new people that try to come in an change things too quickly without respect for tradition and their way of doing things.
Respect:
ISTJs respect people who are logical and don’t let emotions get in the way of efficiency and truth. ISTJs show that they respect someone when they listen to them even when they think what the person is saying is false. ISTJs quickly lose respect for someone when they seem like they don’t know what they’re talking about and haven’t done their proper research.
Attraction:
ISTJs are attracted to those who can admire and appreciate their true deep core. ISTJs come off as cold but feel things very deeply and are strongly attached to their principals. They like those that can see that they are different from the rest and treat them special. ISTJs become annoyed when they see people putting on a false face for others, especially when they know the true person.
Investment:
When an ISTJ decides they want to be with someone, they invest in that person by opening up to new possibilities. ISTJs love their security and have a difficult time venturing into the unknown. However, if they love someone, they will show their love by taking risks and trusting that the future will work out with them. As a result, if a breakup happens, it will feel to the ISTJ as if their world has been thrown into chaos. If the ISTJ decides to move on, they will no longer take a chance with them and will start to see a future without them.