ESTJ Relationships- Core Elements
The core elements of love and a healthy relationship are trust, respect, attraction, and investment. According to TypeMatch Relationship Dynamics, here is how those elements align for ESTJs:
Trust:
ESTJs trust those that they see as intelligent and able to reason logically and carefully. They do not like emotional appeals and do not trust those that try to play to their emotions. They lose trust in those that they see cannot understand their rationale. Additionally, they trust people who think highly of them and their accomplishments and status.
Respect:
ESTJs respect those who present themselves properly and are respectful with their time. ESTJs respect tradition and those who have a long history of experience to back up what they say. They do not respect those who are not grounded to reality or those that don’t have any real-life experience.
Attraction:
ESTJs are initially attracted to people who want them and actively seek to involve the ESTJ in their life. ESTJs love to be wanted and when they do they can get lost in imagining the possibilities of being with that person and all the ways they could make that person happy. Conversely, ESTJs are annoyed by those who force them to talk about what they want for the future. For ESTJs there are many possible things that could happen in the interim and it’s not about what they want so much as what they should and must do.
Investment:
When an ESTJ decides to invest in a relationship, they open up about their feelings and share their values with the other person. ESTJs can be hard to crack and don’t open up to just anyone. They are tough on the outside but feel things deeply and guard those feelings. It takes a lot for ESTJs to be vulnerable in front of others. As a result, if a breakup happens, the ESTJ will feel that their vulnerability has been exposed and deem the person as a bad person.
