ESFJ Compatibility Chart

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Who ESFJs Are Most Compatible With

ESFJ’s personality compatibility is based on the cognitive alignment of the types, their temperament, and their interaction style. ESFJs are as follows:

Cognitive functions: Fe Si Ne Ti
Temperament (Kiersey): Guardians
Interaction style (Linda Berens): Get Things Going

There is no perfect 100% compatible match. ESFJs are scored for their compatibility with other personality types based on four factors- communication, passion, friendship, and partnership. A match that is high in one is often lower in another. It is up to the individual to decide which factors are most important for them in a relationship.

Communication

ESFJs have the greatest compatibility in communication with types that share the same cognitive functions. The cognitive functions are like languages our minds speak and when someone has the same functions, we do not have to translate our minds to them. ESFJs speak the languages of past instances and relational harmony. As a result, ESFJs communication compatibility can be broken down as follows:

High Compatibility: ISFJ, ESFJ, ENTP, INTP
Medium High Compatibility: INFJ, ENFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ
Medium Low Compatibility: ISTP, ESTP, ENFP, INFP
Low Compatibility: INTJ, ENTJ, ESFP, ISFP

Partnership

For partnership, ESFJs are most compatible with IP types- meaning INTP, INFP, ISTP, and ISFP. Together, they are the most efficient and get the most done. The two balance each other out and their working styles do not clash with each other, preventing conflict and complacency.

Friendship

For friendship, ESFJs tend to be compatible with fellow SJ types. This means they have the greatest compatibility for companionship with ISTJs, ESTJs, ESFJs, and ISFJs. These types see the world through a similar lens and so can easily get along and enjoy activities together.

Passion

ESFJs have the greatest amount of passion compatibility in a relationship with those that have opposite cognitive functions to them. For them, ESFPs, ISFPs, ENTJs, and INTJs are polar opposites to them and create a spark. However, this passion can also turn to the most electric fights. These types together are the most likely to resolve their arguments with “physical activities.”

Who are ESFJs least compatible with?

ESFJs have the greatest amount of conflict, and thus least compatibility, with the personality types that have opposite cognitive functions. When two people with opposite perspectives come together, they are bound to conflict eventually. While all couples have arguments no matter what their types, below are some common points of conflict for ESFJs with other personality types.

Incompatibility with TJ types- ESTJ, ISTJ, ENTJ, INTJ

The TJ’s focus on efficiency can bulldoze over the harmony of the group and other people’s feelings which distresses the ESFJ. The ESFJ interprets this behavior as being an “a*-hole”. Conversely, the ESFJ’s focus on group harmony can forsake efficiency. The TJ interprets this behavior as being a pushover or fake to make other people happy. The TJ’s directness can hurt the feelings of others. The ESFJ then feels responsible to clean up the TJ’s “mess”. Finally, the ESFJ’s need to fit in and empathize first can put their own interests and truth at jeopardy. So, the TJ feels responsible to clean up the ESFJ’s “mess”.

Incompatibility with NJ types- ENTJ, INTJ, ENFJ, INFJ

NJs are driven to move towards a singular vision for the future. However, ISFJs prefer to maintain their system for what has been done in the past. So, the NJ sees the ESFJ as stuck in their ways. Conversely, the ESFJ sees the NJ as ignoring important details before moving forward and changing things.

Incompatibility with FP types- ENFP, INFP, ESFP, ISFP

To the FP, the ESFJ can appear fake and seem too concerned with fitting or people pleasing instead of being themselves. To the ESFJ, the FP can appear “selfish” and seem too wrapped up in themselves rather than getting along with others. The ESFJ focuses on the group rather than the individual. Conversely, the FP focuses on their own likes and identity over the group harmony.

Incompatibility with SP types- ESTP, ISTP, ESFP, ISFP

SPs seek to engage with what is actionable in the present in order to move towards a singular Ni vision. Thus, they disrupt the status quo, distressing the ESFJ and making them feel like things are in chaos. The ESFJ maintains the status quo and focuses on the fine details- making the SP feel stifled and trapped. The SP doesn’t understand why the ESFJ doesn’t want to move forward or “go for it”. The ESFJ views the SP’s approach to the world as haphazard and dangerous.

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Where to find a compatible relationship

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