ESFJ Relationships- Core Elements
The core elements of love and a healthy relationship are trust, respect, attraction, and investment. According to TypeMatch Relationship Dynamics, here is how those elements align for ESFJs:
Trust:
ESFJs trust those who they view as good people. They trust those who act morally and are have strong values. They distrust those who do not express their values or appear to have the wrong values in the ESFJs eyes. Furthermore, ESFJs trust those who show appreciation to the ESFJ for what they do.
Respect:
ESFJs respect those who present themselves properly and are respectful with their time. ESFJs respect tradition and those who have a long history of experience to back up what they say. They do not respect those who are not grounded to reality or those that don’t have any real-life experience.
Attraction:
ESFJs are initially attracted to people who want them and actively seek to involve the ESFJ in their life. ESFJs love to be wanted and when they do they can get lost in imagining the possibilities of being with that person and all the ways they could make that person happy. Conversely, ESFJs are annoyed by those who force them to talk about what they want for the future. For ESFJs there are many possible things that could happen in the interim and it’s not about what they want so much as what they should and must do.
Investment:
When an ESFJ decides to invest in a relationship, they dedicate themselves to thinking about that one person over worrying about the needs of everyone else. They open up and share their real and honest thoughts with the person that may not be so nice but are true. You know an ESFJ likes you when they tell you what they really think. If a breakup happens, the ESFJ can feel as if the world doesn’t make sense anymore.
